Dr. Lisa Aronson Fontes' book Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship has been included on our Recommended Reading page. It is a wonderful resource for those who have experienced coercive control. Dr. Fontes has a doctorate in counseling psychology and has worked in the areas of child abuse, violence against women, and challenging family issues for over 25 years. She teaches at the University of Massachusetts Amherst and has presented on the topic of coercive control many times.
Recently, we discovered that Dr. Fontes also has a blog, hosted through the Psychology Today website, where she writes regularly about coercive control. This blog is a great, digestible resource for those wanting to understand more about how coercive control functions within intimate relationships. We highly recommend checking it out!
A few recommended reads:
"Coercive control can be difficult to recognize. Many abusive people act charming and kind in public, while controlling, degrading, and intimidating their partners at home. A prenuptial agreement can reinforce their domination. "
"...All too often, abusers interfere with the lives of their former partners for months, years, or even decades after services and systems have moved on. People often treat domestic violence survivors who talk about what they are experiencing as if they are crazy, exaggerating, or making up stories. It is difficult for people to believe that the formal end of a relationship (such as moving out or a divorce) does not always mean the end of the abusive or controlling behavior. All too often, the abuse just takes on new forms."
"Away from family and childhood friends for the first time and with easy access to alcohol and drugs, college students may be especially vulnerable to the emotional manipulations of Coercive Control. The first step in helping young people avoid and escape from these stealth forms of abuse is to identify the problem."